Fire dominates my chart and dont get along with fire signs?

im a gem but my moon venus and mars are all in fire signs and was in a relationship with someone who also had alot of fire in his chart, but the sex was horrible. i took over in the bedroom most of the time and he was detached sloppy and just didnt seem to know what he was doing . same thing with an aries guy he was really quick and finshed off in 5 minutes(dont understand how people say theyre good in bed). im more into the carressing,kissing, eyecontact touchy kind of thing. something that can last for hrs as opposed to wham bam thank you ma'am. i get most turned on by pisces or caps. or anyone with those two in their chart